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This memorial website was created in the memory of our loved one, Dillan Michael Coleman who was born in Gastonia,North Carolina on November 16, 1999 and passed away on October 23, 2002 at the age of 2. We will remember him forever. He was a Beloved and Happy little Guy in the times that preceeded his passing. He will always be Daddy's Lil Bulldog.
Dillan was age 2 when he passed, he did not get to see his 3rd Birthday. I'm sure if he had it would have been wonderful and this Child could have been saved this ill fate.
Dillan and his Brother Donavon in May of 2002 went through a divorce involving their parents. Jimmy Coleman & Wendy Ellsworth Coleman were married but as alot of marriages we had our problems. When we divorced we had Temporary Joint Custody with the Boys. I saw the Boys on Weekends and throughout the week. They were happy times together but that all changed for my Children....
On May 18th 2002 I saw Dillan & Donavon for our Visit time and noticed Severe Bruising on them. They had Bruises on their Rear Ends in the shape of buckle marks and choke marks around their necks. I called Gaston County Department of Social Services to report this. Social Services came to my home and took a report and pictures. When Dillan & Donavon's Mother returned to pick them up Wendy claimed that she did not know where the bruises had come from and when questioned about them further exploded saying that if anyone left the marks on them it was her. Did the Social Worker Take the boys? No. The Social Worker permitted the boys to leave with her even after hearing her remarks. If I had only known that, that would be the last time I would see my Children alive together.
Dillan & Donavon were taken by their mother Wendy Marie Ellsworth and her Boyfriend Robert Goodman into hiding for fear of prosecution on abuse. It was not until October of 2002 that I was to recieve word after searching and calling the Police that I was to hear that my youngest son Dillan was in the Hospital from Severe Injuries from Abuse.
Dillan was murdered on October 23, 2002 at the hand of his Mothers Boyfriend Robert Goodman and by his own Mother Wendy Marie Ellsworth's Negligience in takening care of her children, My Children. Dillan was Beaten, molested, Bitten, thrown out a window and brought back in to be beaten more. He was finally laid in his bed to slowly die from Blunt Force Trauma to the Head. Dillan's Brother Donavon was Beaten from trying to protect him and in return recieved and Black Eye and was choked.
Please Help stop the Violence. Our Children are our future and Someone Evil stole My Baby's Future. Please be an Advocate for the Cause and Not a problem. Light a candle for Dillan and Keep him and all the other Angels in your heart. Only by Us can we change the future and outcome.
This is A Father's Thoughts & What I have endured........
I'm 30 and in 2002 I lost my son Dillan Michael Coleman. My son Dillan (age 2 at the time) and my son Donavon (age 4 at the time) were involved in my Ex Wife and my Divorce. At the time I had visitations regularly with my boys on the weekends and at least 2 days during the week after I got off of work. I started noticing unusual bruising on the boys and called Social Services in Gaston County North Carolina where I reside. I made the report and they sent a SS Worker to my home to do a report etc. The SS worker allowed my Ex Wife to leave with my boys after stating that "she didn't know how they got the bruises". The SS Worker was supposed to follow up for a home investigation in 3-5 Business Days. (As if my children's lives were on a "Business Schedule") The SS Worker waited 2 weeks before a follow up even after NUMEROUS calls to her by ,myself and family members who were worried since I could not find my boys or their mother and had not been able to have any visits with them after this report was made. When the SS Worker finally went out....THEY HAD MOVED. No one knew where they had fled to or simply wouldn't tell. All I knew was that She (Wendy Marie Ellsworth Coleman) had fled with my boys and her Boyfriend (Robert Goodman) somewhere. I called the telephone company, the Post office, I called the Police looking for some sign of them Somewhere in NC & SC but to no avail. Social Services sent me a letter stating that the case was dropped since they had moved. DROPPED, What? You report abuse, they take pictures of OBVIOUS bruises in Belt buckle marks on their little rear ends and thighs and perfect finger marks around their innocent little necks and you say that they are not worth looking for? I tracked on trying to find my boys myself. I NEVER WAS ABLE TO UNTIL IT WAS TO LATE. All of this took place on and about May 18, 2002.
October 22, 2002. I'm at work a normal day as usual, missing both of my children, but trying to strive along in my life. I have met a Beautiful & Loving Woman by the name of Melissa Burleson who I have only known and been dating for about 1 week now. She has listened to my story and has helped me tremendiously with support and helping in my search. I was thinking "maybe just maybe my luck will change". It didn't it came crashing down that down. I recieved a phone call from an Officer from a Police Department in New Hanover County, NC. He said he was calling to inform me that my youngest son Dillan was in the hospital at Duke Medical Center. My thoughts, my words went into a frenzy. What happened? How? Who? How bad? Where was my other son? Who was with him? All the Officer told me was that I needed to come to Duke right away. I left work immediately, I called my Mother & told her, I called my Girlfriend & told her while I was on my way to get her. I picked Melissa up at work and grabbed my Mother on the way to hit the Interstate. We raced onto I-85 North. Who was driving you ask...Yes, I was. All I knew was I had to get there ASAP. All the while I'm asking myself a million questions inside and beating myself up inside with the wonderment of "What if". Melissa is on her Cell trying to get in touch with the Nurses Station to get an update on Dillan's condition and his "status" and what room number he is, since I couldn't even remember or think straight as to if the Officer even told me. Melissa is able to get through to the Nurse directly caring for Dillan, she asks the nurse to find out what his condition was and if he was ok. The nurse won't give her any information since she is No Relation to Dillan. I of course Zealously take the phone and demand answers. The nurse hands the phone to my Ex Wifes Mother to verify who I was. The Next words I heard from a woman who had lied and kept the location of my children and Ex Wife from me was this "Oh didn't you know? Dillan's already dead". I went through the same motions as Kelsey's Father did....Crying No, No, No, This isn't real. I threw the phone out the window and lost control of the car. My Mother & My Girlfiend grabbed the wheel sobbing and Screaming they knew it had to be something horrible. We slid off I-85 into the embankment and stopped. My body was limp my soul and heart was gone. My life had turned into a blurr. I can honestly say I don't know how we made it to Duke. I know someone else drove, I couldn't handle anything at that point.
We arrived at Duke several Hours had passed. It was a long trip, full of Mourning, crying, screaming and blurs. As I walked into the Hospital we went to the Children's Ward. It was Dark, it was late, there was almost no one there. We found the wing that he was in, we finally found a nurse to direct us to his room. As we walked in his room.........There was my baby laying on the bed, bruised and battered. He use to be so full of life and joy. I called him Daddy's Lil Bulldog. He was my spitting image. I cried, no, I Sobbed like a child. Parents aren't supposed to see their children like this. This is NOT the cycle of life. I cradled him in the rocking chair and rocked my son's lifeless body. Dillan was only 2. His birthday would have been next month on November 16. He was a child, still a baby, still small and Innocent. What had happened to my Baby Boy? By my side was my Mother & My Girlfriend, we all cried, we cried together for him. After an hour or so the Nurse came in to talk to us. She told us that he had Blunt Force Trauma to the Brain and that there was nothing they could do for him. Then the shocker came.....Dillan had been on life support for a day. The Nurses and Doctors were told by My Ex Wife that I was not involved in their life and wanted nothing to do with either of my children. I was devestated. Dillan's Mother Wendy decided to have the life support cut off after she had recieved the news from the Officer that I had been notified.
My son Dillan had sustained a Brutal Beating by his Mother's Boyfriend the night before. He was Beaten, kicked, thrown out a trailer window, brought back inside and beaten some more. He was then laid in his bunk bed to die. His older Brother Donavon trying to be the "Big Brother" tried to protect him during this beating and in turn was given a black eye and was repeatedly choked. When Robert Goodman was done with Donavon he laid him next to his dying brother Dillan in the same bed. Their mother during all of this had left the boys to go work at a strip club knowing that not only was Robert abusive but was HIGHLY INTOXICATED that night. When she returned home from "work" she found the bloody mess and the boys and did what? NOTHING. She walked calmly to the neighbors house and asked to use the phone. The Neighbors Obliged and she called 911 she stated that her youngest son wasn't acting right. The Neighbor hearing this (BLESS YOU DON WHITE) went running next door to see what had happened and to see if it was urgent. What he saw in that trailer he described as the Bloodiest most God Awful thing he could imagine. He found Dillan unresponsive laying in a pool of his own blood with very hard labored breathing. He raced back to grab the phone and called 911 again. His Exact words to the 911 Operator was "You better step on it, this boy is not going to make it, he is in severe condition, Please God Help Us". When the Ambulance arrived they assessed Dillan & Donavon. They took Dillan to New Hanover Hospital where they ran extensive tests. Donavon was taken by the many Angels at Pender County Social Services into Protective Services. It was Determined that Dillan needed to be sent to Duke Hospital for Brain testing. He was flown by Helicopter to Duke. They determined that Dillan was Brain dead. No where in this time period was I notified that my son was hurt or in grave danger. Dillan's mother Wendy told the Police that I had nothing to do with my kids and wanted nothing to do with them. How wrong she was. Wendy went to the extent of trying to tell the Police that Dillan's brother Donavon a 4 year old had done this to him. Shame on her. She tried to cover and conceal her own son's death by blaming her other son just to protect the man that had done this. As I told before when I finally recieved the news I was Devestated.
I currently still go through the motions in life passing my time and working hard to support my Family. Donavon still has to go to a Psychiatrist and he probably always will. He is a Brave trooper. My heros are my kids. Dillan was strong and Donavon is strong. They took they worst things in life by the abuse of a Mother and her boyfriend.
I could go on and on but I won't. As I sit here now it is 2:00 am my time and I'm sobbing still. It is a Battle. It is a battle that I will endure everyday. I will never forget. The man that Murdered my Baby was sentenced to First Degree Murder. He is serving a sentence of Life & 4 Days. He will never get out, he will never get parole. But does that change anything? No. My Ex Wife went scott-free so to say. She lives in Clover, South Carolina about a 20 minute drive from me with her new husband Marcus Brian Joye. I now have Full Custody of my other son Donavon James Coleman. She has NO visitational rights due to many discoveries after this. Both of my sons were not only beaten, they were molested by their Mother & her Boyfriend. I am now married to Melissa. She stuck by my side and was my rock throughout all of this. Donavon adores her as does she adore him. He calls her Mommy. He wanted to, he asked her to. He says she's the only Mommy he's ever known. My life is getting better but I will still never forget those fateful days nor my son that was lost to this cruel world. I have a daughter now with my Wife Melissa. Her name is Nevaeh Alexyss Coleman, she is 4 now. God gave me a beautiful little girl with a cherub face that is almost identical to that of Dillans. I think God & Dillan sent her to me. I look into her eyes and for a moment, just a glimpse of a moment in time.....I see him and he is truly happy now and safe. He can no longer endure the beatings, no longer feel the pain of this world. He is truly My Lil Bulldog guarding the gates of Heaven.
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unreal! / Eddie And Gail Shifflett (step-mom's friend )
It is unconceivable to us that this kind of thing can happen in the 21st century! Where are those who are paid to protect our precious children?! If this child was kin to someone in the DSS, we wonder if maybe they would have investigated it a little...
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REMEMBERING YOU SWEET ANGEL... / IRENE MOMMY TO ANGEL KAYLA XAVIER 4EVER (OCT.23, 2008. )
Remembering...and keeping you in our hearts forever little innocent baby boy Dillan...God bless you and keep you in his arms free of pain.....love always...irene mommy to angel ..Kayla Xavier...forever. |
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SENDING LOTS OF LOVE TO YOU SWEETIE, / ROSE GRANDMA TO ANGEL BRITTANY SYFERT
PRECIOUS DILLAN,
WISHING YOU A VERY HAPPY BIRTHDAY,
HOPE YOU ENJOY YOUR PARTY WITH ALL YOUR ANGEL FRIENDS, I KNOW IT'S A BIG ONE WITH SO MANY SWEET ANGELS. STAY CLOSE TO OUR BRITTANY SHE WILL TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOU. SENDING LOTS OF LOVE TO YOU LIT...
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Please also Visit these Websites / Jimmy Coleman (Father)
Please take the time to also visit these other Websites.
This is a link For Kelsey Briggs.
http://kelseyspurpose.org/forums/search.php?action=results&sid=150965
This is a Link to Tessl...
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Just Sending Love and Sympathy / Stephanie W. (Caring Person )
I just wanted to send my sympathy and love to this family. The torture of the entire ordeal from first to last breaks my heart so.
The woman that gave birth to those beautiful boys is a monster and is truly evil. I can not believe that sh...
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DEAR DILLAN / Mary Dingler (Someone Who Cares ) Read >> |
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Happy Heavenly Birthday Dillan / Jenny Tavendale Mum To Ross Read >> |
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Happy Birthday Precious Baby Boy Dillan! / Carol Pizzi (Angel Debbie's Mom ) Read >> |
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HAPPY HALLOWEEN / Linda-mike Arrigo (angel friend ) Read >> |
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im so sorry / Cheri Brooks From Ohio (angels) Read >> |
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I n Loving Memory Of Dillan / Carol Carico (none) Read >> |
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For Your Angelversary Dillan / Denise Kneale (connected by angels ) Read >> |
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I am so sorry / Katrina Turner (passer by ) Read >> |
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So sorry / Janetta Grigsby (Visitor) Read >> |
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This apology and condolence comes from a diffent / DANIEL WALLACE (NONE) Read >> |
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Dillan's Legacy and Wishes
I believe Dillan's wishes to be this:
Please Stop the Abuse and the Pain. Dillan would have wanted all those who loved him to be Happy and Full of Life as Everyone who Knew Him would say he was Full of Life, Laughter, Love and Hugs. He left behind a loving Father, Brother, New Step Mom and A New Baby Sister. |
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